Step 1 : BE TRUSTWORTHY
Nobody will open up to someone who is not respectable. You have to earn that person's trust by keeping their confidence. Be ready to become a voice of inspiration to the hurting person.
Step 2 : BE AVAILABLE
Being there shows that you care. People always want people they love or trust to be by them, through thick or thin. Your presence is enough to stop the tears from flowing.
Step 3 : BE A LISTENER
At this point, the hurting person has reached catharsis and needs someone just to listen. Be that person. Let the hurting person feel important and free to release their feelings.
Step 4 : BE EMPATHIC
You must put yourself in that person's shoes, in order to understand their hurt. This requires being non-judgmental and in tune with that person's emotions. Being empathic will help you say the right words to sooth their hurt.
Step 5 : BE SINCERE
Being genuine in lending your shoulder proves your integrity to the hurting person. Ulterior motives always ruin what can be a wonderful
relationship. You have to care about people with all sincerity.
But trust me, not everybody you can trust to be your shoulder to cry on. I learnt it the hard way which left a bit of scar in my heart. I guess, at times, less said are better!
Enough said.... let's move on to another recipe that I had tried recently. It was well enjoyed, again by Syahmi. My boy has the same taste as the mommy who likes sour stuffs. I came across this recipe at Jun's Blog . Since the recipe looks easy, I said to myself, why not give it a try. I made the right decision. Thank you Jun and Putra yanty of MYR, for the recipe.
1/2 kg topside beef
1 inci ginger
2 pieces dried tamarind (asam keping)
1 tablespoon corriander seed ~ pounded
a bit of black pepper ~ crushed
1 tablespoon chillie paste
salt, sugar and zeal to taste
1 teaspoon Budu (optional)
1. Slice the topside beef thinly. Wash and set aside.
2. Slice onion, garlic and ginger.
3. Place the beef, onion, garlic, ginger, corriander, black pepper and chillie paste into a pot with a bit of water and let it cook on medium heat.
4, When the water is almost dried up, add enough water for the gravy. Add in the dried tamarind, salt, sugar and zeal to taste. Let it boil. Once the beef is cooked, it's ready to be served.